Good News to Wealthy, Successful West-Siders

For more than 15 years, Mark Anderson was Pastoral Team Leader of Marineview Chapel, a Christian Community Church with Brethren roots now affiliated with Vision Ministries Canada, in the affluent far southwest corner of Vancouver. He now serves as a Spiritual Director for Regent College and the Henri Nouwen Society, and offers whole life coaching through More2Life. He is the church planter coach for Vision Ministries Canada and several other national denominations. He also convenes the monthly Westside Pastors Prayer Fellowship.

Several years ago, our fellowship at Marineview realized that our neighbours in Dunbar were simply not open to invitations to church outreach events. Their lives were already over-resourced and over-committed. So when we approached them with invitations to join us for “community”, all they were hearing was more commitment and obligation.

They didn’t want us knocking on their door, inviting them to a Carol Sing. Even handing them a flyer at the local grocery store about a Family Fun Day at the church was perceived as an unwelcome intrusion.  We were ignoring their signals that they weren’t hungry for what we were offering. We were speaking to needs they weren’t expressing.

This raised the question, what are our neighbours’ REAL needs that we can meet?  We realized that, although our neighbourhood gives the impression of wealth and success, many people here still battle with loneliness, self-doubt, and a deep sense of not measuring up.  We stopped inviting them to events and programs and instead began to develop real relationships with no strings attached.  We asked our people simply to get together with unchurched neighbours they really liked, with whom they wanted to spend time even if they knew beforehand that these would never come to church.  In short, we asked them to initiate genuine friendships.

We discovered that many of our neighbours expect to be judged by others around them – and that they perceive church people have a whole extra lens through which to judge them. We tried to make it clear that we just wanted to get to know them and that we didn’t see it as our role to tell people what they were doing wrong. By demonstrating we weren’t in approve/disapprove mode, not only did we make friendships but our neighbours told us they were delighted to find people who were so open and gracious.

Building these relationships took years.  This is a time-consuming, labour-intensive way to share the gospel.  Yet eventually these genuine friendships became strong enough for us to share the difference that faith in Jesus makes to us day by day.  We are not better than everyone else, but we do rely on God to help us.  The gospel begins with “I’m a sinner,” not “You’re a sinner.”  The message is not “Come to my church and be like me,” but rather, “I have found a God Who loves me, and I’m sure He loves you too.” Eventually, some of these friends began trickling towards the church … not on Sunday mornings, but to social gatherings where we could introduce them to our church friends.  Our neighbours are still hesitant to officially call themselves “Christian” but they are very much enjoying Christian fellowship and being a part of other Kingdom initiatives we invite them to.

We feel like we have shifted from asking God to bless our outreach plans to answering His invitation to incarnate His Presence to our neighbours.

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